Balance,

People need more balance.  Too many people are crazy without any paticular way of learning self control or modesty, merely getting sucked into a desperate life of partying, drugs and alchohol.  They don't have the emotional stability to make themselves or anyone else happy, they just continue to do what they know until they do not know how to even get help.  The other half of this extremist theory? The people who are too careful.  The ultra-modest, quiet, try-too-hard-to-be-perfect crowd, who ends up not being socially acceptable enough to find their way to happiness because they are either afraid or were never allowed to explore who they really are.  Young people who are taught modesty and ultimate self respect are generally alright, but it's the extreme measures that restrict them from their true potential: When girls aren't allowed to wear pants, when boys aren't taught how to cook their own food, when boys and girls aren't allowed to be friends until their parents court them off and they have no idea how to behave around the opposite sex.  These people either go through life wondering if that is all (except for the very small percentage that is actually thrilled with their life the way is) or they revolt entirerly.  they become the very opposite, they rebel against their parents and lifestyle and begin to remove themselves from everything that they've learned. I was lucky enough to have parents who let me be whoever I wanted to be.  They didn't have my college picked out for me, they didn't care where I wanted to live, they just let me explore.  And that's how it should be.  And if your parents were strict, then make a change in your own offspring, tell them that you'll love them no matter what.  Because that's all that matters.

Love,
Alice